Watching
Rev. Sharpton and Imus go at it on the Today Show this morning, I felt
my stomach start to turn. As a black woman, I hear things that offend
me everyday. We live in a country that places our beauty at the bottom
of the list compared to women of other races, of course unless your
beauty closely resembles that of women of other races. We know we are
just as beautiful as anyone else, and that's how we deal with it.
I
made my opinions about Imus clear yesterday. It got so many hits of
digg, I was getting a little nervous. If people actually start reading
this stuff, I should probably say something important. I wasn't as
offended by the comments Imus made because I watch that show all the
time and I've heard him say worst things about black people when he's
joking and I've heard him say very respectful and positive things about
people when he's serious. It doesn't excuse what he said. To add the
term "nappy-headed" goes beyond a basic insult. It is too specifically
an insult of the beauty of black women everywhere. And these girls
aren't public figures, so they don't deserve to have their ethnicity,
dignity and sexuality disparaged on the national stage just because
they won a basketball game. And a room full of white men discussing
black women is always going to end up like this because they don't
know, and don't care to know, anything about us. Suspend him for 2
weeks or 2 months, whatever. I've moved on from that incident and when
he comes back on the air, I'll probably still watch the show.
What
really bothers me is the hypocrisy of these so called black leaders.
They have every right to go after Imus. What he said was hurtful and
crossed the line in a very touchy area. White men degrading the
sexuality of black women is an issue that has existed for centuries in
this country and you know what I'm talking about. But I don't want
believe that the dignity and honor of black women has anything to do
with what they are doing. There is no place where black women are
respected less than in our own entertainment culture. For entertainment
we are depicted in ways so less honorable than anything Imus said. What
he's said in his entire career is less than how many times we are
degraded in one hour's worth of videos or songs on the radio.
If
it was the dignity of black women that leaders were really concerned
about, they would go after those who degrade that dignity with the same
gusto they are going after Imus. But it isn't. This is about "see what
we can do to them." For all those years that white men disrespected
blacks in general and got away with it, they want to show that now you
can't. They want to bring him down to show that even rich, white men
have limits. To get him fired would be a wonderful victory for them and
them only. Herein lies the hypocrisy.
Because at the same time
they are celebrating their victory over Imus, kids all over the world
will be subject to cultural messages that tell WHITE and BLACK BOYS and
GIRLS that black women aren't s%#*. So where was the victory for us?
When black leaders are confronted with a white man who disrespects
black women, he must lose his job. But when they are confronted with
black artists who disrespect black women for profit, their only
punishment is to say, "You shouldn't do that." Or maybe if they're
feeling real angry, they'll say "That is wrong." They are always
admitting that we shouldn't promote this kind of message, but it never
goes beyond that. These songs go over the same national airwaves that
Sharpton said cannot support these degrading comments my Imus. So who
needs to be fired? What artists should we boycott? Which corporations
supporting this message should we start calling to pull their support?
The
answer is no one. For these black men (and women because there are
plenty of them supporting this industry because they profit), their
only punishment is to be told what they are doing is wrong and they
should change. There is no benefit to these leaders in bringing down
anyone who is not white. That's because its not the message they care
about. It's the race of the messenger. That's hypocritical.
I
want to repeat that I DO NOT condone what Imus said. Black women deal
with so much disrespect every day. We are considered "less than" by
many and there is no excuse for that. God is just, so all those people
will get theirs. I'm just saying if you really believe in a cause, then
you have to believe in the cause no matter what. There aren't degrees
of concern if you think something is cruel, hurtful and wrong.
Sorry
if I seem mean, but I'm mad and it's only 9 in the morning. I promise
my next post will be about something that is meaningless and vacuous.