I
need to vent, so here it is. WTF with black women/men who justify the
fact that they date outside of their race by putting down other black
women/men? It only leaves collateral damage in the community. You know
I have no problem with interracial dating. Like God, love has no color
and the fact that it pisses bigots off is just a bonus.
When my
sister met her husband 15 years ago, neither of them had dated outside
of their race. They were just two people who met, fell in love and
built a family around that love. No matter how many times brothers gave
her grief for it, she never turned it around on them. She just said,
"That's my man. End of story."
I have a friend who says she only
dates white men from now on because they are the only men worthy of
her. Yes, she is beautiful, well-educated, makes six-figures and
generally "cultured" by East Coast standards. She says that black men
aren't worth s*%#. They're losers, irresponsible random breeders who
play the victim and..(the list is long). Last night, I got into another
argument with my cousin, whom I've blogged about before because he says
he dates white because sisters can't bring anything but 15 extra
pounds, bad credit and another man's kid. I'm angry at both of them.
If
you're 5% honest with yourself, you'd admit there are plenty of white
women/men out there who aren't worth s%#*. If you're 5% honest with
yourself, you'd also admit that there are plenty black women/men out
there who are wonderful. You just don't want them. That's okay. You
don't have to. If you can find someone you love who loves you, you grab
them and hold on to them forever. If you prefer that person be of
another race, then you two can miscegenate the hell out of each other
till death do you part. I'm partial to redheaded boys with green eyes
myself (my man understands. He salivates whenever Angelina &
Charlize come on TV).
When I've dated outside of my race, I
never blamed anyone for it. Not even the brothers who gave me a hard
time because of it. I said, "That's my man. End of story." So stop
acting as if brothers/sisters gave you no choice but to look elsewhere
by becoming themselves unacceptable. The next time someone asks you why
you date outside of your race, tell them to mind their own business.
They're probably just jealous, so they wouldn't accept any answer you
had anyway. But if you feel you must answer, then just say, "I date
white men/women for one reason. That's who I want to date." End of
story. Enough with the collateral damage to back up your personal
choice. It's foul.
